When nothing in life is going our way, when everything is happening as least expected and everything falls apart, that is when our patience is being tested. This is when one must be patient but we often can’t bear it and impatiently try something in haste resulting in a total mishap.


Misery and trouble are aspects of life, we all go through them at least once in our lifetime, and the duration of misery varies from person to person. But that doesn’t mean it does not end, it surely does. For some, it takes a while, for others less or more.


The point is life is full of ups and downs, you will be challenged on every turn of your life from making big decisions like job and career to choosing between two party dresses, mishaps happens. What you need to do is to struggle and make your way through them. You need not to sit back, cry and whine about what happened, you need to dust yourself off and work on making things better for yourself, even if they seem impossible to be mended, you can always try. And remember this trying is what God rewards you for later. When He sees that even after all the hurdles you still got back up, to help yourself, He rewards you with something worthwhile which is beneficial for you.


All these mishaps, and unexpected events that occur in our lives and ruin the plans we made for ourselves, is a way of life testing us and our capability to still move on. If we back down and give up, we end up having nothing at all but when we still get up to be back in the battle, it’s when our fight is paid back with rewards.


You have to be patient during this time, it will be agonizing to see yourself struggle so hard while others get it easily, but hey what comes easy, goes easy. You will have a surety that your patience did not reward something that would not be fruitful. These miserable events will come with depression, melancholy, anger, frustration, anxiety, stress but you have to stay strong and steady to keep moving forward. Like they say, there’s always light at the end of a dark tunnel. So keep moving forward towards the light, you’ll soon be blooming in sunshine.


When you come out of the tunnel, you’ll be shaped for better. You will be stronger than before and resilient than ever. You will be able to tackle small mishaps like a piece of cake, and will bear more patience to tackle any big hurdle coming your way. This is how life shapes us in different ways for different events. We tend to build a threshold for them.


Let me rephrase a story to you about it


Once upon a time, there was a man having one daughter. The daughter one day came to her father and complained to him about her life and how it was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it through. She sighed and said was tired of fighting and struggling all the time while everyone else gets out easily. It seemed just as one problem was solved, when another one soon knocks at the doorstep.

Her father was a chef. Upon seeing his daughter miserable he wanted to explain her how things go in life, so he took her to the kitchen. There he filled three pots with water and placed each of the pot on a high fire. When all the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot, and ground coffee beans in the third pot. The daughter could not figure out what her father wanted to prove to her.

He then after adding potatoes, eggs, coffee beans to it, let them sit and boil. He didn’t say a word to his daughter while all this happening. The daughter, deeply sighed again and impatiently waited, wondering what her father was actually doing.

Almost after twenty minutes, he turned the burners off. He then took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. Then he took the boiled eggs out and placed them in a separate bowl.

Lastly, he ladled the coffee out and poured it in a cup. Then he turned to his daughter and asked her, “Daughter, what do you see?”

The daughter replied hastily from all the waiting, “Potatoes, eggs, and coffee.”

“Look closer,” the father said, “and touch the potatoes.” The daughter leaned forward and touched the potatoes, she noted that they were soft. Then he asked her to take an egg out of the bowl and break it. She pulled off the shell and tried to break the egg but observed it to be a hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma and taste brought a smile to her face.

“Father, what does this mean?” she quickly asked after sipping the coffee.

He explained to her that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity that is the boiling water.

However, each one of them reacted differently in their own way.

The very potato went in strong and hard, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.

While the egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. The boiling water had a different effect on it making the egg harder on its outside.


However, the ground coffee beans were unique of all. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water, mixing with and created something new, a whole different thing.

The father asked his daughter, “Which are you? When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean?”


The moral of the story is that life gives us lemons, it all depends on what how we utilize those lemons. Things will happen to us but what really matters is how we react to, how insides are become due to it. So be patient through all your hardships